Alcohol and Substance Abuse
When people come to me seeking help for drinking issues, it often feels palpable that they are hoping I will just suggest ways they can successfully cut back and so be able to continue drinking. Some problems with drinking can be episodic in nature, however...read more
Step 1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol - that our lives had become unmanageable. Alcoholics Anonymous The famous first step of Alcoholics Anonymous has acquired many admirers and detractors over the years. I find this to be fascinating because how one...read more
Almost Alcoholic, subtitled "Is My (or My Loved One's) Drinking a Problem?" is well worth reading. It is written by Robert Doyle, MD, and Joseph Nowinski, PhD, mental health professionals who received significant training in chemical dependency. Importantly, they are...read more
For long time readers as well as those who have found this site recently, welcome to The Psychology of Everything (www.PsychologyOfEverything.com). Formerly known as The Psychological Review of the Arts (www.PsychologicalReviewOfTheArts.com), I felt the need to rename...read more
Tal Wilkenfeld, the precocious and talented bass player performed with her 3 piece band in the intimate Sweetwater club. Unbelievable to say that she first landed on my radar 10 years ago when performing in Jeff Beck's group at Eric Clapton's Crossroad's concert in...read more
Anomalisa is a quirky little movie by Charlie Kaufman that many will feel borderline disturbed by and find easy to dismiss. The movie, entirely animated and at times to chilling effect, begins with a single voice speaking while the audience stares at a black screen....read more
My introduction to the Milk Carton Kids comes from their association with Sarah Jarosz. See my review of Ms Jarosz, a rising talent on guitar, banjo and vocals: http://psychologyofeverything.com/2014/05/sarah-jarosz-mystic-theater-petaluma-ca-5214/ MCK are described...read more
Gwyneth Paltrow is in the celebrity news cycle again regarding her divorce from Coldplay frontman Chris Martin. This time she is setting the record straight that she was not author of the infamous term “conscious uncoupling.” She now credits the editor of her blog where she first made her divorce public.
But this time she is no longer backing away from the term as she first did after a hail of negativity following her initial announcement.
I haven’t formally cataloged the hew and cry over Conscious Uncoupling, but let me see if I can tap into why it became a furious object of derision.
Describing a divorce as a conscious uncoupling comes off as a little precious. Many people with complicated, angry, spiteful divorces might think, “I am barely surviving and these people sound as if they splitting up because they got a little bored with each other. Save your sympathy!”
In the court of public opinion celebraties often get a pass for all sorts of behaviour or else are judged twice as harsh. Here again envy could be at play. If someone can sound so civil about separating, shouldn’t they work harder at staying together?
Who does one root for in a conscious uncoupling? We are given no indication of who the bad guy is (let alone the bad actor, well maybe some have opinions on this topic). Judge Judy would lose all her ratings if she had to preside over cases like this.
For people from the East Coast there is a certain New Agey quality to the term that qualifies for a smug smack down. See The New Yorker March 26, 2014 for example of this line of attack.
Sometimes I get nostalgic for the experience of rock and roll of my youth. By this I mean the primal, tribal, lustful, anti-authoriterean, pure joy of early rock. I'll start by way of a negative example of what is not rock and roll and that is The Rock and Roll Hall...read more
Hand to God is a spiffy, almost breezy, comedy in the tradition of Book of Mormon. That is, until it turns dark at the end. Ordinarily this might be considered a blitzkrieg of a show ie popular with locals who will sustain it as long as they can, but for a tourist run...read more